{"id":34872,"date":"2025-01-16T11:35:53","date_gmt":"2025-01-16T10:35:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/?p=34872"},"modified":"2026-02-20T10:17:28","modified_gmt":"2026-02-20T09:17:28","slug":"manage-your-conversations-stop-interpreting-and-improve-your-results","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/blog\/posts\/manage-your-conversations-stop-interpreting-and-improve-your-results\/","title":{"rendered":"Manage Your Conversations, Stop Interpreting, and Improve Your Results"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>BY LYDIA VIDAL. What happens when what we say is not what the other person understands? We live in interpretative worlds: in every conversation, each speaker listens and speaks based on their own way of seeing the world, interpreting from their personal experience and beliefs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The gap between the intention of what is said and the interpretation made of what was said can become insurmountable if we are not aware of it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Language, by its nature, is not as linear as we think. Words can evoke different images, emotions, and even judgments depending on the person receiving them. What may be a clear statement to one person could sound like criticism, reproach, or even a threat to another. And as we know, interpretation can generate misunderstandings, conflicts, and communication barriers that affect productivity and well-being within teams.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, how can we break out of this cycle of interpretations and make our conversations, relationships, and outcomes more effective and serene?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Executive Coaching to Break Out of the Interpretative World<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Executive coaching techniques not only apply during a formal coaching session but are&nbsp;<strong>transferable skills<\/strong>&nbsp;t are transferable skills <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>The first step to preventing our conversations from exploding is\u00a0<strong>TO LISTEN<\/strong>in a new way. In coaching, we call this <em>Empathic Listening<\/em> which starts with knowing that listening is not passive; it is active and demanding. Listening this way means being present for the other person, with our whole body, without letting our own assumptions cloud what the other person is trying to communicate. <strong>If there\u2019s a parallel conversation going on in your head while you're listening, then you're not listening. <\/strong>To avoid this, we must listen with the sole intention of understanding, not responding.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>n a conversation, it is also essential to <strong>CONSCIOUSLY USE SILENCE.<\/strong>Not interrupting or finishing their sentences, for example, gives us the serenity to connect with what the other person is saying. And pausing after someone speaks allows two things: first, for the speaker to hear themselves; second, for us to process what we've heard, reflect on our interpretation, and choose the response we want to give.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Once we\u2019ve listened, it\u2019s important to\u00a0<strong>VERIFY <\/strong>what we've heard. Sometimes, we\u2019re not entirely sure if we've captured the message correctly, or worse, we might think we have understood it clearly. <strong>The only way to confirm if what we understood is the same as what the other person intended to say<\/strong> <strong>is by asking.<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>The\u00a0<strong>PARAPHRASING<\/strong>\u00a0is another crucial resource. Repeating what the other person has said with our own words is a technique that strengthens mutual understanding. For example,\u00a0<strong>saying, \u201cWhat I hear you saying is...\u201d<\/strong>not only confirms that we\u2019ve listened well, but also validates what the other person is feeling. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Vulnerability as a Pillar of Effective Communication<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Vulnerability is not only the ability to recognize our limitations or fears but also\u00a0<strong>he ability to be authentic and open.<\/strong>In the context of conversations, showing vulnerability could mean, for example, acknowledging that we haven\u2019t understood something, that we've lost the thread of the conversation, that we\u2019re struggling to connect with the other person\u2019s need, or that we\u2019ve been overwhelmed by a comment\u2014and sharing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When we apply coaching techniques such as active listening, verification, or paraphrasing <strong>with a vulnerable disposition<\/strong> <strong>and recognizing that the other person is communicating to fulfill a need<\/strong> (even if they don\u2019t always do so effectively), we reduce the barriers that often prevent us from connecting authentically and maintaining fluid conversations that allow us, as a result, to build trust and coordinate actions, for example.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By Lydia Vidal: What happens when what we say is not what the other person understands? We live in interpretative worlds: in every conversation, each interlocutor speaks and listens according to his or her own way of seeing the world and interprets from his or her own experience and beliefs. 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