emotional intelligence<\/a> and social); and finally, their expectations regarding the change (whether optimistic or pessimistic).<\/p>\nWhen we don't like changes, what do you recommend we think about, and how do you recommend we act?<\/strong>
\nGiven that there are many types of changes (expected, unexpected, progressive, sudden, etc.), when we encounter a change we don't like, to cope with or overcome it, it helps to think about possible positive aspects of it and visualise the benefits, if any. Try to identify if there's anything one can do to influence the process and feel a certain control over the circumstances. Ask yourself: What can I do to make this process easier and less stressful?
\nIt also helps in identifying one's own needs and the tools that facilitate a smoother change, as well as asking for help from trusted, positive individuals who offer ideas and encouragement.<\/p>\nIn your book, you mention that change provokes different emotions. How does knowing what I'm feeling help? What is the value of distinguishing between anxiety and remorse?<\/strong>
\nKnowing what you are feeling is fundamental because it indicates the meaning of the experience you are having. Emotions generally arise as a result of an experience. If we feel anxiety or fear, it is generally because we identify a threat (whether real or imaginary); on the other hand, if we feel remorse, it is because we think we have done something wrong, and therefore we feel guilty. Faced with a threat, we will seek to protect and defend ourselves, whereas in the face of guilt, we beat ourselves up or react defensively.<\/p>\nI should have read that report, I shouldn't have insulted them, I should have called that client\u2026 This thing you call the \u2018tyranny of shoulds\u2019, what does it have to do with change?<\/strong>
\nWhen we are going through a period of change, we often build expectations and beliefs about its outcomes. If these are not met, we may feel frustration, guilt, disappointment, anger, or sadness. It is not uncommon for people who are very demanding or rigid with themselves, or others, to fall into the tyranny of \u201cshoulds\u201d and have an internal dialogue where the prevailing thought is: \u201cI should have done, said, achieved, or been...\u201d producing a sense of discomfort and failure. When we fall into the tyranny of 'shoulds', we compete with the idea we have of \"what should be\" and always lose. There is no sense of achievement or enjoyment, but a feeling of permanent dissatisfaction.<\/p>\nIf in life we are in continuous change, is stability a chimera?<\/strong>
\nFrom my point of view, the feeling of stability is as real as life itself. One can find serenity and inner peace while going through a process of change. We can experience change with joy, enthusiasm, and a desire to try something different without it causing emotional instability. Let's not forget that life is change, and change is life.<\/p>\nIf you're faced with the saying: it's better the devil you know than the devil you don't, what do you say?<\/strong>
\nI disagree with the message this saying conveys. In my opinion, it is better to try to change something that makes us unhappy than to live under the weight of resignation and unnecessary frustration. I think it is better to try to find solutions to problems than to stand still. It is better to be adventurous and take risks, as long as the pros and cons have been analysed beforehand, one keeps their feet on the ground and has a high sense of responsibility.<\/p>\nAre changes always good?<\/strong>
\nChanges are primarily a challenge. Depending on our perception of challenges, we will perceive changes as an opportunity or a threat. There are positive and negative changes. Positive ones generally produce well-being and negative changes produce discomfort. Nevertheless, some people handle positive changes poorly, and others handle negative changes well. Perhaps each of us should ask ourselves: Which of these people am I?<\/p>\nPsychologists and coaches have similar goals, what do you value about the approach of the latter?<\/strong>
\nI believe we share the same goal: to help. In the course of providing that help, whether we are psychologists or coaches, every % professional has their own style, techniques, tools and knowledge, underpinned by a methodology and a theoretical model. In my view, when helping another person, it is essential to have a clear understanding of one\u2019s own capabilities and limitations, as well as the client\u2019s or patient\u2019s objectives. Similarly, it is vital to have a clear understanding of the procedure to be followed, to know how to make the most of the tools used, and to have the ability to remain objective.<\/p>\nThe coaches who attended your talk at EEC Alumni rated your presentation very positively. One last recommendation for them\u2026<\/strong>
\nIn my personal and professional experience, I've learned that to be in constant change, it's essential to be in constant motion. In other words, I recommend staying up-to-date with the latest studies in the profession, studying and learning new methods that contribute to work as a coach\/psychologist, putting what you've learned into practice, avoiding intellectual and emotional stagnation, connecting with people in the field, asking for help when needed, and looking after yourself.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Convocada por EEC Alumni, Laura Rojas-Marcos, psic\u00f3loga y terapeuta, comparti\u00f3 los aprendizajes, las inquietudes y las vivencias personales y profesionales que le llevaron a la conclusi\u00f3n de que somos cambio. Una reflexi\u00f3n que tambi\u00e9n le motiv\u00f3 a escribir un libro hom\u00f3nimo. Ante coaches, antiguos alumnos y profesionales de la EEC en Madrid la experta revel\u00f3 […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":28133,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[599],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-28132","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-noticias"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28132","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=28132"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28132\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":34010,"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28132\/revisions\/34010"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/28133"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=28132"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=28132"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.escuelacoaching.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=28132"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}